Combing your life with the affairs of someone else is a decision of trust, and sometimes, it doesn’t always pay off. Of course, you’re not silly for having had this faith, you’re just in an unfortunate situation and will no doubt find a better outcome.
It may be that your partner has called off the relationship, you’ve mutually agreed to a divorce based on uncovered infidelity, or perhaps you’ve suffered bereavement. Either way, managing your affairs can feel dizzying when you have to decide your life anew and untangle it from the affairs of another. This is especially true if you’ve been with your partner for some time, and aren’t sure where to go next.
Never fear, because while managing the logistics of an unexpected break-up can feel overwhelming, with a few keen decisions you’re sure to move through it with dignity. We hope the following few tips can help you get started, keeping your head held high and looking forward to a better tomorrow.
At a time when social media connection can seem even more cemented than actual in-person relationships, it’s good to detach where you can and where you want to. That’s not to say you have to block your ex from everything, nor delete all of your couple photographs, but it’s good to at least change your password, make sure you unhook from the common staples of platform connection, and if you need the break, to filter out messages being sent to you or restrict them entirely. If you can do that, you’ll feel more comfortable managing your online space. Of course, this can always be a good excuse to limit your social media use entirely, which can be nothing if not healthy.
Moving Your Stuff
Moving your possessions from home to home is not always easy, especially if you’ve been living half at your house and half at your partner’s. You might have even moved in, which can take time to unfurl form. This is why hiring small storage units so you can easily move out your goods within a short space of time, without necessarily having to deal with all of the logistics of that right now, can give you a great deal of comfort at a fractious time.
Plan For Lonely Nights
Unfortunately, the end of a breakup is not just a status change, but a change in how you live your life. Some people, understandably, feel quite unhappy about being on their own, even though there’s nothing wrong with it. If you find yourself hovering over the “message” button after all is said and done, or you find your first time sleeping alone to be worrisome, distract yourself with friends, other activities like movies, and meditation. Give yourself time to prepare for that solitude, and if you need help (like with bereavement), there can be counselling services to support you.
With this advice, you’re sure to manage the logistics of an unexpected breakup in the best possible manner. We wish you the best as you readjust to your new lifestyle.
How have you managed an unexpected break-up? Let me know in the comments below!