Avoidance and anxiety are common in relationships, usually come from a terrible experience, and are more than just sex. Here are some tips that can help with intimacy issues.
Addressing Your Issues Head-On
A fear of intimacy can put a terrible strain on a relationship and affects you as someone who cannot provide it, and your partner who needs it. As a result, you may argue more, and your relationship could end. But couples and marriage counseling is an effective method of addressing issues head-on. Sometimes talking with your partner alone can be challenging. But with a trained professional to guide you through the process, you can engage in constructive discussions about your relationship. Then, you can work together to understand your needs.
Do Activities with Your Partner
Your fear of intimacy can prevent you from being close to someone or sharing your inner feelings. But you can work on it slowly by spending more time with your partner. Slowly but surely, you will open up as you build trust toward each other. Activities don’t need to be glamorous or expensive. Simple things like walks in the park and enjoying nature together are excellent ways to bond. Where it goes from there is up to you. It also helps to explain to your partner that you will take some time to become close. They’re sure to understand.
Just Talking will Help with Intimacy Issues
Intimacy issues affect about 2.5% of the population and might prevent you from opening up to someone. But spending time together is an excellent way to bond and open up with someone. But simply talking is a proven and effective way of becoming more intimate with people. You don’t need to give someone your life story, and you probably won’t be able to anyway. But you can begin by telling your love interest or partner that there are reasons why you have a hard time opening up. Most people are understanding but feel there is a problem when you think.
Learn to Control Your Emotions
There are many reasons for intimacy issues, and in most cases, they stem from a traumatic event or tragedy. These are hard for you to talk about, and they are your private feelings. But keeping them inside can manifest as emotional outbursts. Anger issues and extreme highs and lows are common for people experiencing intimacy issues from trauma. So learning how to control your emotions will help keep your relationships in check. Otherwise, you will likely argue with your partner all the time, pushing them further away.
Don’t Shut Out Your Partner
Intimacy issues are deep-rooted, and you might have a hard time talking about any of them. Counseling will help. But your partner is also there to support you. Therefore, you have a readily available source of comfort you can use at any time. If your partner truly cares for you, they will be happy to comfort you in times of need. But the worst thing you can do is ignore them. This will likely push them further away, causing stress at home and developing a relationship breakdown. Take it one step at a time, but learn to trust that your partner is there for you.
You might find it challenging to be intimate. But you don’t need to suffer. Counselors are trained to help. But you should also try taking it slow with your partner and opening up little by little.
What other tips can you give that might help with intimacy issues? Let me know in the comments below!